Girls!

Maybe, and I mean a big, qualified maybe, if the man has made you first lady of the United States of
America, and you have a child by him, and you need to live with Secret Service, and the man is going to help you in your attempts to become a U.S. Senator,and then President of the United States yourself, then maybe if the man disgraces you, or shows any hint of being otherwise threatening toward you, you should consider the possibility of continuing to live with him if you are living with
him already.
I don't recommend it- but I don't exactly condemn it.
In any other circumstance I would say, at least plot your escape!
A guy you are committed to is not supposed to act on or admit to you his randier feelings for other women.
A guy you have agreed to spend time with is not supposed to be able to hit you, shout at you, berate you, ridicule you, lie to you, shove you, lie about you, otherwise betray you or your confidence, block your path, withhold affection, withhold liquid finances, show frequent jealousy, envy, or suspicion toward you, threaten you, ignore you, or treat your other loved ones badly.
Naturally, it works both ways. However, as nature would have it, spontaneous non-weaponized acts
against a person by a man have a great deal more potential for serious harm than do those same acts
perpetrated by a woman, in most cases.
Couples who treat each other in this way should be in therapy, separately and together.
Therapy is expensive, but people do what they can to avail themselves of help buying a car, buying
a house, getting other sorts of health care. This care is no less important.
Behaviors I mention are even more destructive when people accustomed to them don't see them as
particularly harmful.
They are particularly harmful.
And whatever you do now to shake them off, blunt their effects, you may not be able to do if you are
to become an old person.
I can't understand what makes people feel they cannot do without such treatment. I think in many cases it's true the person enduring such treatment is already broken, and so would go out and find some other abusive, or thoughtless person to 'put up with' them. So the poor treatment would not stop. It would trade administrators.
At some point though, attempting The Courage To Heal might well be worth the time, emotion, and
effort of increased happiness with self.
If necessary, being alone can be fun without submitting to loneliness.
Couples should be couples only when they consistently admire one another, and frequently offer
one another praise and appreciation.
Arguments should take apart concepts, not partners.