She's between a rock and a hard place.
She may want to be an NFL wife for many reasons.
She may want to support the wild man for many reasons.
However, the rest of us have to let her, or each other know, that the things she has been saying
about the violence she has encountered at the hands of her partner are the things most all victims
of rape and violence say: "From here on in, I want to be in control of the process- including the
decisions on what happens to the perpetrator."
That sounds wonderful, but it is not. I understand the sentiment of letting 'control' be the new healer.
However, we need more honest healing in these matters of partner violence. Control was lost to the predator, and like it or not, taking control once the barn door has been left open puts the entire remainder of the community at risk, randomly. The best thing for an individual to do in an immediacy may not be the most protective thing for that individual, or his or her community, which has also suffered the horror of violence in their midst.
We have to get to the point where as a society, we treat crimes like crimes.
We have to give up the P.J. O'Rourke title mind set. We cannot continue to 'give violent love a chance'.
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