Black Fathers

Until you have walked in their shoes, or heard the truth from their own mouths, leave them alone.
You won't walk in their shoes. American black men do feel they are a completely separate genus
and species than any other group on earth.
You won't hear the truth from their own mouths, because you aren't one of them. They don't speak
the truth to any but each other, and that on rare occasions.
Black women are not in their speciation. Not as far as they are concerned.
Black children are not fully incorporated.
White people are barely affiliated.
I don't know if I can include all those Black men who feel culturally assimilated. Some of them are
only concerned with equality.
However, those people are the exception- not the rule.
Very few people on earth have heard black men speak true affinity to one another, except at times during family gatherings. Even then, they will often take each other aside: 'Hey brother man, lemme holla at y' 'bout somthin.'  Only they are privy to those conversations.
I've read about their communication connections to each other in books.
I've seen movies attempt to depict it.
I haven't seen anything come close to authenticity though, excepting in some of the earlier episodes of the TV series- The Game.  I don't know how producers managed that!
Sometimes, rap music approaches it.
But then- how would I really know? I am not a Black man.
There are times I can tell they don't mean to hold back.
There are times I can tell they don't know they are holding back.
But in most Black men, something inexplicably specific to them, inside of them, is held aside. They mean for something they hold askew as unique and dear and not for public, or "other" consumption to remain forever unacculturated except for the American Black maleness of it.
There is no way, therefore, to tell them how to parent their children, unless they ask because they really want to know.
How often will that happen? Don't hold your breath.
Sometimes black men stay away because they love their children.
Haven't you read For Colored Girls?
Some would stay away if they loved their children.
American Black men, who feel they set the standards nowhere, won't submit to an inability to set the
standards at home.
They'd rather not even have a real home.
Somehow, they usually ask anyone they feel on the outside looking in...'what's love got t' do with it?'